“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” -Steve Furtick
It is easy to compare the highlighted, polished, version of others to the rough around the edges versions of ourselves. This is especially true with social media and in social situations. It is easy to get caught up in the “they have such a great and perfect life” syndrome.
For example you come home from a rough day at the office, have a migraine, and get into a fight with someone over something trivial. Then you sign online only to see posts by others about how perfect their life is going, how great work is, how great their relationships are, complete with pictures of everyone smiling and advice for everyone else. Then you feel even worse because your life, your family, your work, and your relationships aren’t that perfect. The trouble is that the perfect image they present online or in social situations gets compared to your own flawed life as if you somehow don’t measure up.
What you don’t see are the times that they too yelled, screamed, and threw things out of anger and frustration while looking for an item. You don’t see the two hour fight it took to get that one picture with the kids smiling. You don’t see how on social media they favor some people over others. You don’t see where they told one friend or family member they were busy to go or do something that weekend, only to post on social media pictures of the party they went too instead. You don’t see the behind the scenes bloopers, mistakes, and flaws that got to the polished presentation.
All you see is the tiny sliver they want you to see.